"it does not follow that every Muslim wants to kill or subjugate infidels."
True. But every muslim supports every other muslim, including the estimated 130,000,000 who identify themselves as islamists and who are open about their desire to kill all Jews, Christians and other infidels. A muslims first allegiance is to islam not the US or the UK or wherever they happen to live.
It's not a monolithic body.
BTW, the figure of 130,000,000 "Islamists" is something I've seen dropped into numerous FR threads as an "estimate" made by someone else. I don't think I've ever before seen it posted as a "self classification".
Might want to give us a source on it so we can see what it means.
How many Muslims have you spoken to about this? Is a Christian's first allegiance to Christianity or the United States? If their first allegiance is to Christianity, does it follow that they defend the various horrible things that Christians have done to Jews throughout the ages? What you are seeing is fear. Yes, other Muslims fear the fanatics just as much as the editors of Western newspapers do.