I know real divorced people too. I know quite a few guys who got royally raped. Don't know any women that got raped though. Some of the women who ended up with the kids should have been horse whipped and forcible sterilized (real bad mothers here) yet they had the kids and their ex-husbands, who would have been far better for the kids, got to pay to watch their kids get abused and or exposed to stuff they never should have been exposed to. And it doesn't seem to matter if she was the one who committed adultery, she still gets the kids etc.
Divorce should be very, very costly. Ending a marriage without cause (such as adultery, abuse, abandonment) should be extremely painful. But it should be fair. And it so seldom is. Normally the man gets raped in court and the woman gets off easy.
I'm totally behind ending no-fault divorce. The one who breaks the marriage (commits adultery, abuse or abandons) should lose everything, kids, home, cars, materials. They should leave the marriage having only the clothes on their back and maybe one change. They broke the marriage.
The fathers I know who actually want custody of the kids have their kids for as much time as they wish.
That custody and support are always at the whim of some man hating court is preposterous. The vast majority of divorces never have their custody or support ordered by a court. They work it out. Those who end up in court failed to be reasonable.