[Warren_Piece]

Whenever these man/woman, divorce, or pre-nup threads come up, there is so much bitterness thrown around I think I'm on DU. Am I the only person on FR that's happily (and FULLY) married, and has been for MANY years (19) ?

Seems like it sometimes.

[utahagen]

About fifteen years ago, I read a very moving article in Vogue magazine. The writer was a woman of about 40 who was recently divorced. She said that despite having gone through a bitter divorce, she hoped to marry again someday and, if she did, she would not have a prenuptial agreement. She explained, "Nothing is as romantic as a risk." She is right. It makes me very sad to realize that many people have become so hyper-practical that they devise legal ways to protect their money from the people they are (ostensibly) about to pledge their lives to. As I wrote in a previous post, if you have a prenup, you're not really married.

[conservative cat]

Whenever these man/woman, divorce, or pre-nup threads come up, there is so much bitterness thrown around I think I'm on DU. Am I the only person on FR that's happily (and FULLY) married, and has been for MANY years (19) ?

You aren't alone. I haven't been married long (this time), but I am happy, generally think a lot of men and women are good people... and this is despite a NASTY divorce and ex-husband (I have been told on FR before is my fault that he was an abusive cheater!) It didn't sour me on marriage, though. I went in without a pre-nup this time (despite making more and having more assets), because I trust my husband and that I made a better choice this time.