Posted on 02/08/2006 4:02:23 AM PST by LouAvul
I'm so glad you said that...I work in an environment of professionals and some of these young professionals decide they want to have children, and when the children arrive, they can't understand why their lives are no longer the same.....they mostly complain about sleepless nights.....like they feel they should have their lives controlled before and after they had children....(foolish, foolish, foolish).
"...My own life attests to this...This is what G-d does."
Amen.
Gee, I've always found the thought of being childless depressing. Yeah, being a parent is work, but the rewards far outweigh the costs. Your house, car, and other toys sure won't remember you after your gone. It's anti-Darwinian that many of the most successful people I know choose not to reproduce.
I'm one half of a two income family. When my children were little (from 3 days old), I brought them to work with me. When they started school, my office hours matched theirs. Now they are both attending a nearby college where they can come home regularly. Nothing, absolutely nothing, gives me more joy and eliminates my stress than holding them. They know it too, and hug me constantly.
LOL!!!
At times, no doubt about it.
However, being a male I can verify that we fathers need to ... A) Start a family very early in our adult life when we are most pliable ...
And B) Be able to get away from the little gremlins for at least 8 hours a day.
Our teats just aren't up to the demand. ;)
Trust me on this, I helped raise five beginning when I was 21. Should have started when I was 15. ;)
I work 24/7, but get to cuddle with my clients, put them on my lap and read ABC books to them, have every excuse to cut pointless activities, take charge of the education of these wee ones, endure countless kisses, hugs, "I love you's," and "wow, this food is GREAT!"
Yeah, the hours are long, and I can't say much for the pay, but I wouldn't trade it for the world!
Heck, growing up on a farm was a continual lesson in sex education. Seeing the birds, bees, cows, sheep, goats, and pigs merrily humping away forced farm parental units to be frank and up front with kids about sex.
My gosh! I'd rather be worrying about my children than worrying about not having any!
I've done both. You have no idea how correct you are!
I've been there, too, my friend!
Maybe it's because they chose not to reproduce that they are successful. Maybe it's because they have the realization that if they reproduced, their lives as they know it would go down the toilet. Maybe.
I reckon some folks might call me successful, some folks not, but if I ever go the anklebiter route, it'll be when I'm middleaged and well set up to hire a nanny or something. One a them militant types.
you are absolutely right, the children who are not worried over cannot possibly be as successful. they are children without boundaries, without discipline, and without much self-esteem (not that i think a slavish amount of attention needs paid to that). if your parents don't worry about you, how could they possibly care enough?
True enough. My parents were open about it. It was hard not to discuss it when my dad has his arm up a cows vagina up to his elbow turning or pulling a calf. Quite a bit different influence than MTV showing homo's courting and mating on the show "Next."
This is not parenting. It's having a child as a pet, or status symbol, or mid-life crisis. But it ain't parenting. Please don't have any anklebiters !!!
they will wipe your drool and change your depends down the road, so be glad you have them : ) Mine are 17, 14 and 11. i worry myself sick over just about everything about them, but they are well behaved, smart and conscientous kids.
Your kids sound great and I'm sure you're very proud of them. You must have done (and are doing) a good job. Parenting has to be one of the hardest jobs ever.
i am biologically wired to worry and i can't NOT worry. i don't want them to hurt in any way and while intellectually i know that is impossible, it doesn't stop me. i know God will protect them and our lives are God-centered. I pray that will always be so for them. my son might do the stupid stuff you did, but i assure you that my daughters will not : ) he is the one i worry about most!
thanks! you worry about whether they will fall and crack their skulls or drink drano from under the sink when they are little and think that is bad, then they get their drivers license and you know they are on the road and you know that it has ratcheted the worry up astronomically. i don't forsee an end to the worry!
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