My wife disagrees with me, too. She's a nurse. She works with homosexuals all the time (as the article indicates, the health profession is rife with them).
She thinks like you do, "if they do their job, who cares?". She, like you, female and (at least in the case of my wife) have never served, can't possibly understand the situation.
You argue from a position of ignorance.
You say your husband disagrees. You imply he is insecure in his masculinity. You really think that?
Please, don't insult my husband because you disagree with me. I am only stating my opinion.