Posted on 01/15/2006 4:55:00 AM PST by Excuse_My_Bellicosity
LOL!!!
We call that looking for a nurse with a purse.
HOTD - no harm, no foul.
To do what? To keep MY promise? No, that only takes one. To make for a happy couple? Yep, that takes two.
Sometimes, regardless of what YOU do, your spouse is incorrigible.
Totally agree. You're absolutely right. To say that all marriage problems are 50-50 is just a lazy myth, on the same level as saying that all rape victims "were asking for it."
Are you saying someone should stay miserable?
The least that I'm saying is that, if you promise to honor the bonds of marriage for better, for worse, then you should keep your promise. Otherwise, you'd better include an "unless you don't make me as happy as I think I should be" clause.
More of what I think, since you ask:
THE least-heard marriage truth
"Marriage is not really about happiness"
Dan
Amen to that Joe
you had me at leg sweep
:P
No, I didn't ask. Don't know, don't care, DAN.
I'd be very interested in your culture, not to mention your world view. Please share, if you're willing.
But I might be more of a 'romantic' type. I would like to think romance can be kept alive.
In some ways it can. But it's very different than the dating years. In my culture, I worry about single girls who are the "romantic" type, though--I've seen way to many boys who are expert at creating circumstances that look an awful lot like "fate". One in particular, who really opened my eyes, would meet a girl, and then tell me the predicted interval before he would get her into bed. Whether he predicted a few days or a few weeks, he would usually be right (per the girl's own admission, not his boasting). When he moved on to the next one, the last one was always dazed and bewildered, and couldn't understand how "true love" had passed so quickly...
That guy got me into big trouble, once. One of the few times I ever got intoxicated, I met a girl from another town at a party. She was extremely attractive, and in our conversation I told her all about this guy, who had moved away. Her friends kept telling me, "Dude, shut up!" but I didn't pay any attention. Finally one of them blurted out, "You realize that she's his girlfriend, right?" Still drunk, of course, I looked her up and down, and said, "Ah. Yes, I can see that she would be."
You did her a favor...
Oh, I didn't know she had one for men, too. I should buy both, and my wife and I can read them both. Sounds interesting. Thanks!
Your #182 asked me a question, after a rather slanderous, ignorant snipe. Do you prefer to remain ignorant, in public? Did I touch a nerve?
Besides, I think you've been here long enough to be able to read and interpret the "To" part of posts better than that.
Dan
Maybe I should take lessons from you. ;) Thanks for sharing all that.
Pretty much, she had me at leg sweep too.
;^)
What do you think Ann Coulter would be like as a wife? I admire her as a commentor and thinker, but would hate to think what she'd be like as a spouse.
Same goes for younger men with older women who aren't the 'mommy' type. :o)
So how old are you that you have such a jaded view of relationships/marriage/love? :o)
Yep, I figured I'd get a reply from somebody in the bible-thumper death-before-divorce crowd.
I've been trying to work through the comments that have been posted among you gents--not easy, considering I started backward. I could make a lot of comments in favor of saving a marriage and, surprisingly enough, I could make many comments in favor of dissolving a marriage. I won't do either. The only comment I wish to make is in regard to the above-posted statement, particularly the use of the moniker "bible-thumper." In my mind, that zeroes in on the very point that too many good folks overlook: First and foremost, a marriage is a promise to God. Not your spouse--God. Not just a little promise, either. Before breaking that promise, one should make absolutely certain that there is no chance at all--NONE--that the marriage can be salvaged. Just my 2c. And before I am reminded that "Well I didn't ask for your 2c," I'd like to point out that this is an open forum, and this thread has not been carried on via FReepmail.
Everyone's year off to a good start?
I didn't realize we were debating. But it's a tad more than a perspective difference; my observation has predictive power. It helps explains why so many girls say, in retrospect, "Why didn't I realize he was such a jerk!" But if you don't want to pursue it further, that's OK.
So how old are you that you have such a jaded view of relationships/marriage/love? :o)
Late thirties, and happily married with a five-year-old son. I tend to think a factor in the "happily" part is my realistic attitude... and here you are calling it "jaded"! 8-)
Nope, but I have pushed the limits at times just to make sure he's man enough to not be pushed around. lol
At 28 I was in the same exact boat. All my friends were married and several already had kids. I was still partying it up. I had resigned myslef to the fact that I was just going to stay a bachelor and screw bar bimbos (which wasn't a terrible life but it got old after a while). I held out till just a couple weeks shy of 37. My wife is 24. My friends tell me I played my cards pretty good. I like to think so as well.
The 12.5 year age difference between me and my wife may seem odd but in all honesty, most of the people I work with think I am 10 years younger than I really am. 28 isn't that old. You have plenty of time to find the right woman. Don't be in a hurry. That's the great thing about being a man. We can bide our time.
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