My husband (then my fiancee) and I signed up for Tae Kwon Do classes. We expected our bodies to be pushed. We expected discipline. We expected a tough Black Belt to toss our butts to the mat and give us what for. Mind you, my husband is over 6 ft, weighing a rock solid 215, and can bench press over 200 lbs. easy. He's also held in own in some pretty dicey situations (thankfully, his wild days were behind him when we met).
Our teacher was all of these things, at first. Then one day, after class, as I was putting on my engagement ring, the teacher approached me and asked me if I wanted to go for a drink. This was surprising for several reasons, I thought my abiding love for my future husband was evident to everyone, I had never acted as anything but a student in his class, and I didn't think it was appropriate for any teacher to date a student.
I showed him my ring and he looked equally surprised that I was engaged, and to a fellow student. Very next class, he became abusive to my husband. Instead of giving a verbal correction on posture or positioning, he starting hitting him and kicking at his legs and knees. He became hypercritical of everything my husband did, even though he was doing it the same as - if not better than - most of the class. Some of the other ladies in the class even made comments to me about it in the dressing room.
After three classes of this nonsense, we quit. Simply put, unprofessional is unprofessional.
Folks in the military expect to take abuse, and I believe are prepared to swallow a fair amount of BS in the course of their career. But if this commander was crossing the line, to the point where others were questioning his ability to command professionally, it's better that he's removed from his post.
I agree, but had he used sweet words to mislead, destroy and mock ultimately your husband in your eyes, the corrupting dumbing down results would have been the same.
Some anger puts undue guilt on people while other anger seeks to remove a yoke, as in when Christ whiped money changers out of the Temple. Ultimately, for a man, overcoming scars, legit or not, makes him more beautiful and prouder, though, but you are right, there is a point where it becomes saddistic and both it and irresponsible mazochists must be removed.
Good Mornning TWTX,
Your former instructor???? is a disgrace to karate and other good instructors.
Egotistical and undisciplined seem to be just a few of his shortcomings.
I am sorry you had to be confronted with a sad excuse for a supposed instructor.
I taught for a number of years and treated my students as I would want to be treated.
I believe your first instructor was taught only the physical aspects of karate. He failed to learn and teach these necessary principles&values
1. Discipline
2. Friendship
3. Obligation
4. Respect
5. Pride
6. Honor
7. Loyalty
8. Truth
9. Love
10. Unity
11. Tradition
12. Character
13. Integrity
14. A Pure Heart
There are still many good instructors around. Please be prudent in selecting another Sensei for your endeavors in karate or another martial art.
Some instructor(s)may think they are invincible, but a bullet will bring you down in a New York second.
"To The Master, The Negative As Well As The Positive"
Humbly Your's
Osssssssss.
NSNR-Retired Shihan Dai, MKC-UMAA