[DollyCali]

As a grief counselor I can tell you (and you know this) .. your mind will be one place but your heart & soul another. the mind gets there first. Some times the heart & soul never do.. each person & their journey is different

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I agree. I think though in a way with mum it has helped that she was not really my mum for such a long time that I had gradually come to terms with loosing her and although upsetting that she is no longer physically there her suffering is over and now is the time for me and dad to adjust to really loosing her. Before we were sort of in limbo. That is what I feel anyway may sound hard to some but in reality the lady I visited for the last year was not really my mum. In my mind my mum will always be a fit energetic always working or cooking lady.