I think it's copping-out because first of all, you said "I'd resent them" when speaking of a woman who had children, without any indication that you thought this was wrong, or that you were seeking to change that view. You said it as a matter of fact, until you were called on it.
I also think it's a cop-out because if you have already used "oh that woman has kids, so I won't consider her a good match for me" then I hardly see that you are open to even testing how well you could bond with her kids because there would be no courtship. She was rejected on first glance.
It's also a cop-out because you are a grown man, not a puppet. If you truly want to change it... then change it. You posted it without hesitation on this thread today, so I don't think you've been working on it very long. Only since you had it questioned.
As for "It read to me like I should marry her anyway just because she has kids that need a dad" meaning someone was FORCING you, that's just whacked. I merely suggested it closed minded and selfish to reject women your own age on sight because she has kid(s), while you yourself seek a woman who would love yours.
Again.... you can pretend you're working on this issue all you want, while looking past and pretending not to notice any available women who have a child because they are out of the question.
Prayer is never a cop out. We can't get anything done without it.
I need to leave now.
I wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year.
Merry Christmas everyone!