I understand.
I lost my dearest Grandmother (much more than a mere grandmother - a deep friend) on August 31st of this year.
I'm not even close to being "over" it.
there is no time element. (Check out Philipians)
For other commentators..there is no "general judgement". Salvation will be determined by ones faith in Jesus Christ. If you believe in Jesus as the risen Son of God who gave His life that you might inherit eternal life, you are heaven-bound. If you reject His sacrifice, one second after your eyeball slam shut, you will be in literal hell as repeatedly described in the Bible.
When we get to heaven it is not going to be a communist arrangement. Each person will be judged according to his works and rewarded, tried by fire, and whether wood, hay, stubble,(they burn) or gold, silver, or brass (they are refined by fire) but the same shall be saved. It will not be a place of share and share alike. Some of the little grandmothers who were never lauded and given high esteeme of men and are of great faith will be giants (spiritually speaking) in heaven, and some of the 'preachers',if they make it there, will be so far in the back of the place you will need a ladder to see them.
Barbara Walters is going to tell us about the "broad way" and "broad gate" that leads to .......What I have spoken of is the narrow gate.