[11th_VA]

Here's some of their "secrets":

Secret 1 is "instill a love and need for learning and education."

Secret 7 is "determine and develop your child's individual talents."

Secret 16 is "help your child view America as a great land of opportunity."

Secret 11: "Forget the 'do whatever makes you happy' mentality and strive for professions with financial security and intellectual fulfillment."

[gaijin]

Asian parents generally do not think it is their primary duty to bolster their children's "self-esteem" and confidence. Rather, it is to underscore the importance of education and pursuing one's long-term goals.

And they're taught that they should try to be worthy of their ancestry, that what they have is the product of many people who've gone before them, and they owe these unseen people their best efforts.

Often, the kids internalize these high expectations so keenly that they will describe their performance as poor, irrespective of how well they did on a test, etc.

Black kids will always describe their test grades as "aces". Korean kids will ace the test and say they totally botched it, and when they say that, they will mean it.

[strategofr]

"Secret 1 is "instill a love and need for learning and education.""

Similar to the Jews.

Of course, many people don't know how to do this, since they were not brought up that way themselves.

[mvpel]

Secret 7 is "determine and develop your child's individual talents."

Something that is often ruthlessly crushed in typical one-size-fits-all force-funded government-run schools.

[GovernmentShrinker]

While there are a lot of positives about how Asian parents are raising children in the US, I've also seen too many who are mindlessly and heartlessly driven to achieve goals just because they've been told they must. I've been taking some intro science courses at night, at a public college, and see a lot of these kids. No sign of genuine interest in the subject matter, but in some cases literally in tears over an A- on a test. They are miserable because they feel like complete failures with an A-, and they are miserable about not excelling at something that they don't really want to be doing at all -- seems like success driven more by terror of failure than by desire for success.

[VOA]

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[RebelBanker]

From personal experience, what I believe Asian parents teach their children about school:

1) Unless you are the very best in your class, you are a failure.

2) Anything less than straight "A's" on your report card shames your ancestors.

3) You must do anything to be better than everyone else in your classes. It is not cheating unless you get caught.

The result is children who are hyper-competitive and oversensitive to the slightest perceived imperfection. They are miserable, driven creatures who view rules as obstacles in their pursuit of the top and will not hesitate to cheat or sabotage someone else to gain a competitive advantage.

[Pessimist]

"Forget the 'do whatever makes you happy' mentality and strive for professions with financial security and intellectual fulfillment."

Boy, that one right there is priceless.

[riverdawg]

I wonder how much of the ethnic differences in academic success can be attributed to ethnic differences in family structure? For example, Asian American children are (much) more likely to be raised in two-parent familes than are European American and African American children.

[Fiddlstix]

BTTT

[redpoll]

Could you please show us the entire list? This is great stuff.