[joesbucks]

But on the other hand, it that abuse was at the hands of another (not the parents) the counseling could lead to the kid opening up and busting some cretan.

Certainly true, but instead of a cookie cutter solution of letting the parents handle it, if they are the root of the problem, letting them handle it will probably not repair the issue.

[DoughtyOne]

I don't buy the theory that the majority of homosexual's parents influenced their choices.

You are advocating the prevention of parents being in the loop in all cases (of this variety), and I think that's unfortunate.