No good deed goes unpunished.
And here is the jist, the Lefty pricks telling you that its ok to be an arse and treat those helping you like crap....its God's fault after all...or maybe Bush's.
Great! Let them go back to NO and see what they have to live in. Then when they discover there is noplace, they can go out and get a job and earn enough money to pay rent for less than what they were getting for free.
Key words right there. When you get everything for free, you appreciate nothing.
My sister loaned her house in TN to a family from Katrina. They came in some fashion through her church. Anyway, nothing to this degree, but they were very messy and inconsiderate. Smoking in the house when specifically requested not to. Full ash trays lying around. Junk everywhere.
And something interesting. They came with virtually nothing, but picked up and left without notice (or cleaning up after themselves) and left behind a garage full of stuff. Donations we are assuming.
Altogether, they left a very bad taste in her mouth.
Am I a racist? I'm sure there are some hitting reply before I am even done typing this. But take me out of the equation and ask a simple question.... Now that things are looking up in NO, if this sort of thing were to happen again, would the same people volunteer their hospitality again? Or is that a racist question?
My girlfriend, who is a nurse from New Orleans, commented to me on this situation. She said: "Uh oh these folks around the country have NO idea what they are getting into."
She said: "Pretty soon we'll be getting calls from strangers saying: 'You all come and pick up your people, now. It's time for them to go back to New Orleans.'"
Acting out can occur? Weasel words. Rationalization. Typical psycho-babble. If you are raised like a slob in a barn, then you act like it. Nothing particularly complex here.
When I was single and rented a house, I left it *better* than it was when I moved in. Anytime something is loaned to me, I return it in as good or better condition. I raised my kid the same way.
Pigs will always be pigs and that's what these people are, pigs!
I've heard other stories of good people who appreciate the help they have received.
Social work is hard work with little payoff... It's not always like this, but often enough to burn out anyone who tries it. There truly are some good people out there, who end up briefly needing help, and their success makes you feel pretty good. But then there's this crap.
I'm glad the paper ran the tenants down and asked them about it. "We tried to clean up as best we could" my butt.
Just to prove a point and make me feel better.
The couselor is a total idiot, and you can bet he wouldn't loan HIS house to anyone.
This is a fact. The people on the rceiving end do one of two things. 1. They feel demeaned and are motivated to get on their own feet as soon as possible. These people are generally grateful to those who helped them during their trials. 2. They go into the "you owe it to me" category where it's never ever enough. Whatever they get, they SHOULD have gotten more. You give them food stamps they want a credit card. You give them a school bus, they want a Greyhound. You give them a home and they trash it. These people are never grateful and often leave blaming those who have tried to help them for the conditions in their life. i.e. The man is keeping me down, they give me enough to survive but not to live etc, etc. The statement this shrink made should be heralded to the rooftops and is the exact reason that government social policies, government welfare does nothing for those who are receiving it. It's never been about actually helping people, it's about Liberal (and in some case white) guilt and rather than liberals lowering themselves to actually helping these people, they would rather have a government program to shuffle them out of the way AND so they can feel good about doing something. The truth is all of these people, those who have been raised on or attached to the welfare state will never live a succssful or even fulfilled life because they haven't done anything for themselves. It's time our country took and stand and said no more. You'd be amazed how many people would make a change in their life if they had to choose betwen food and death.
The Browns should have dealt with their anger another way. Ingrates!
How can a psychologist who uses such language not be believed?
In such a situation, saying "thank you" is payment enough.
"Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."
so this is all God's fault?
Been down this road twice (not from hurricanes.) The house still isn't back to what it was, and the downstairs (where the spare room is) is still half filled with junk that I'm paying to have hauled away.
Between the two families we tried to help, it has cost my family about ten grand (including a destroyed Bronco II) and a whole lotta grief.
Mark Twain was SO right.
There is a reason that some people have nothing. Poverty is less a financial condition than a state of mind.