51st Way to Leave Your Lover

Special to FreeRepublic ^ | 26 November 2005 | John Armor (Congressman Billybob)

[Ditter]

Dear Bob
It is with sadness that I read your post. Marriage is a wonderful thing if both are in the same frame of mind. This does not seem to be the case with you and your wife. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 48th anniversary in Dec. All I can say about staying together, happily, for 48 years is this, each must be will to give into the other.
No one gets his way all of the time. If this is truly her dream to go to Somoa, you should be willing to go with her. If you are totally unable to go to Somoa then she should be willing to let this opportunity pass. This doesn't seem to be the case, but who knows, tomorrow could bring a change of heart.

[bonfire]

What you said. Obviously not a whole lot of love lost in this relationship if each partner so willingly walks away.

[Yaelle]

After reading this thread and hearing the responses of most FReepers, I have a question. Why divorce? Is that so that one (or both) of you can have sex with others? Why not at least try the separation and see if one of you doesn't want to rejoin the other after a few months?

[utahagen]

This column is off-the-charts bizarre. The wife is taking off for a better job and the husband doesn't seem to mind. You'd think they'd only been on a couple dates together. I am appalled by this column. Such a cavalier attitude to marriage shouldn't be trumpeted by any Freeper.

[litehaus]

My husband is the chance of a lifetime – the chance of several lifetimes. The answer is a resounding no.

Make that WIFE in my case.............

[Willie Green]

OTOH, maybe the ex never gave Billybob the chance to tag along...
In that case, then the b*tch ain't worth it...
and Billybob needs to learn to vent...

OT OTHER OH, Billybob can be a real pinhead at times, so you really shouldn't judge her too harshly.
Then again, she shoulda known what she was getting into.....

Aw who gives a hoot.
It's almost dinner.
Go make yerself a turkey sandwich or something...

[paulat]

I smell rights to "Movie of the Week"....

...wacky wife ditches right-wing hubby...opens a mishap-plagued restaurant in Samoa...

...hilarity ensues!!!

[Salamander]

Your wife's a lucky woman....:)

[Porterville]

Chance of a lifetime? There is no such thing. Be with the ones you love, in poverty or wealth, and better things will come along.

What was it that I heard last night? Share in joy and double joy, share in misery halve misery. Promise to stick with the ones that you love and you have their strength and council when most vulerable to destruction.

[Alia]

Yours is good manners.

[xsmommy]

who stole the kishka...?; )

[Bella_Bru]

It must not have been love anyhow. Come easy, go easy.

[SauronOfMordor]

Bottom line: if she accepted the offer without getting Billybob's buy-in in advance, then obviously he's much better off without her

[Bella_Bru]

It cut off the rest of my reply to tessalu. We don't know if it was love or not. Only they do.

And it's never easy. So, if he didn't want to join her, she could not have gone either and then been resentful. I've known couples like that. Sure, they stay together; but they are resentful of each other.

[paulat]

There's something weirdly passive-aggressive about this whole thing.

[SauronOfMordor]

This column is off-the-charts bizarre. The wife is taking off for a better job and the husband doesn't seem to mind.

The wife of a friend of mind announced that she wanted a divorce, and he amicably said OK. He had gone thru enough that he'd had enough anyway

[JennysCool]

who stole the kishka...?

The Matys Brothers?

[imintrouble]

"Here’s the story behind this story. Back in June, Kem made a business trip to American Samoa. The population is about 67,000, but of those the ones who come from mainland US or other nations are a smaller group and everyone knows everybody. When anyone new shows up, the residents get to know him/her promptly. It’s the equivalent of waiting for the stage in the American West a century ago."

I am sorry about your situation, however you don't explain why your wife Kem made a business trip to American Samoa.

Did she know ahead she was going to bid on the job she was offered? I mean how many people make a trip to American Samoa ... without a reason.

Did she have friends or family in American Samoa? Why did she travel there?

It sounds like she had this planned out before she went. I have never met a woman who would go to that length unless she wanted out of the relationship.

Sounds excellent on paper, but let's bring it down to its ugly level: She moved to better circumstances, leaving you out.

Hang in there and my sympathy. You are better off without
that kind of fantasy instead of a marriage. It takes two to work very hard through the boring bumps and it sounds like she preferred to run away from them. I wish you a real woman next time - and there will be a next time.

[utahagen]

The thing that's so strange is that this column doesn't indicate anything has been wrong in the marriage! The tone is so casual, you'd think Billybob and his wife had been roommates instead of spouses.

[bonfire]

There is something just plain WIERD about this whole thing.
And why did BillyBob post this then not follow up with any replies??