HJ " Little boy what do you think of abortion?" LB "What's that?" HJ " Where a baby is cut into little pieces and killed." LB "Eeeeeew" HJ "There we can see the inate hatred of abortion in children." LoL riiight.
Making distinctions is not an "argument" nor an excuse for divorce. Divorce is a fact of life like it or not. Recognition of that fact is not support for it.
You seem to live under the delusion that people are supposed to put up with behaviors in a spouse that they would not even put up with in a friend. Perhaps if you were to say that there is a selfish party/motive in every divorce I might agree since I know there are many people who are divorced through no actions of their own and against their wishes.
If your wife said she wanted a divorce would that make YOU selfish?
As a woman I can say that many womwn I have known has wanted a divorce simply because they wanted out, you cannot FORCE someone to love you!
Key is nuture your relationship love and want your spouse do it for yourselves FIRST and your kids will reap the benefits..Staying for the KIDS sake is utterly ridiculous IMHO....
Another strawman..
Obviously not everyone who winds up divorced desired the divorce.... You wish to take the stand on the motivation for divorce, which obviously is triggered by the person desiring the divorce, is not selfishness... which again is not true.
Certainly folks have been divorced who neither wanted it, or asked for it. These folks were the ones instantiating the divorce now are they?? They cannot be held responsible for the outcome, as they have no legal ability to stop the other partner.
Clearly my comments and discussion are about the motivation and cause of divorce, have been from the beginning and have nothing to do with those who wind up divorced against their wills.
The act of Divorce in all but real abuse or neglect is selfishness, pure and simple.