Another strawman..
Obviously not everyone who winds up divorced desired the divorce.... You wish to take the stand on the motivation for divorce, which obviously is triggered by the person desiring the divorce, is not selfishness... which again is not true.
Certainly folks have been divorced who neither wanted it, or asked for it. These folks were the ones instantiating the divorce now are they?? They cannot be held responsible for the outcome, as they have no legal ability to stop the other partner.
Clearly my comments and discussion are about the motivation and cause of divorce, have been from the beginning and have nothing to do with those who wind up divorced against their wills.
The act of Divorce in all but real abuse or neglect is selfishness, pure and simple.
A retort to a simple-minded statement is no strawman.
Is "instantiating" a word? Sounds good even if not.