It was a war zone because the parents hated each other, didn't want to live together anymore, but were forcing themselves to stay together. Also because they're staying together "for the kids" that causes a lot of the emotional baggage to go at the kids, in a certain sense (talking emotional sense here, not logical sense) since they're staying together for the kids that makes the fact that they're living with a person they hate the kid's fault; and even if the parents aren't consciously blaming the kids on some level they do and the kids pick up on that.
Bad marriages happen and need to be dealt with as adults, the kids shouldn't enter into the equation. If they want to try to make it work great, if they feel they can't then get it over with. The "for the kids" decision should be to make the most stable home possible, and that might or might not mean divorce.
I agree with you,is our kids BREAKABLE GLASS???? Geez, learn from your parents mistakes, take responsibility for *YOURSELF* and be a worth while human being in a world that has ALWAYS been difficult.
And they were too selfish to be kind to each other. They could feel like they were taking the 'moral high ground' by staying together, but they didn't really care enough about the kids to give them a decent home life.
even if the parents aren't consciously blaming the kids on some level they do and the kids pick up on that.
If they were truly trying to do the right thing, they wouldn't blame the kids. They would say, "Okay, I've married the wrong person - or at least she seems wrong right now. I'll do what I can to treat her kindly, so that the kids can thrive and grow up in a secure environment."
Marriage takes a firm commitment. Unfortunately, too many are too selfish to make that kind of commitment.