in reguards to your NH comments....of course, strangers are not going to have the love that YOU have.....
but give NH employees a break, will Ya?...they don't have fancy unions or civil service contracts to protect them and give them fat pensions....its almost sinful what people expect "strangers" to do for the pittance they receive and absolutley little or no security in a job, let alone a future.....
my mother took care of her mother who was dying of cancer....my mom had 6 kids and my dad made poor money......but I have preserved my grandmothers prescence in my mind til this day .....so I know its doable to take in your beloved ....
I'm sorry that my post made you angry. There are certainly good people working in nursing homes. However, it's not possible for me to discern the difference without some sort of in depth vetting process that can't be done. They are in fact, strangers to me and my loved one. They may be wonderful caring strangers, or they may be the other type. For that reason, I would choose any avenue other than nursing home care if at all possible.
susie