I'm sorry that my post made you angry. There are certainly good people working in nursing homes. However, it's not possible for me to discern the difference without some sort of in depth vetting process that can't be done. They are in fact, strangers to me and my loved one. They may be wonderful caring strangers, or they may be the other type. For that reason, I would choose any avenue other than nursing home care if at all possible.
susie
We saw similar in facilities for handicapped/severely retarded kids. We would find some fine staff who truly loved and cherished the kids, others more indifferent and a few truly hard and cruel. But what kept us on our toes were the unseen, the bureaucrats setting policies and who knew what else.
Our decision was to stay away and take all responsibility ourselves. The potential gain was not worth the risk.
8mm