Posted on 10/30/2005 6:14:25 AM PST by shrinkermd
I think that Stage 2 is probably most responsible. Everyone gets unhappy during a marriage, which is why it is important to surround yourself with good friends and family. As soon as they get reinforcement for their feeling unhappy, instead of someone telling them to buck up or look at themselves for their unhappiness, they start sliding on an ice patch downward.
I'm 45 and single. I wouldn't necessarily kick her conservative twin out of bed.
She just didn't penn the article for herself.
You are right, there are a whole lot of miserable ones out there. Only a fool would get involved with them. Why take on their misery.
I'm an old married woman and I enjoyed the article.
I think ol' Molly hit her apex back there with Ann Richards. The two shrews lost, and it's been downhill since then. Heh heh!
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Didn't all her junk get moved to Times Select?
I thought I'd never have to see it again...
"I think most guys would rather share a small apartment with a woman who is reasonably attractive, has a high libido, generally cheerful, and is fun to hang around with, than share a mansion with a harpy you're always fighting with. Any guy here disagree with me?"
Exactly. It's not that most men DISLIKE successful women, its that they DON"T CARE.
MODO sounds like the "smart" plain girls in High School who couldn't understand why the Homecoming King or HS quarterback went out with the "airhead" cheerleader. I mean, what would they talk about?
Men have always prefered young, Beautiful, fun, level headed women. They don't really care if you're "successful" or not successful and or that you have an IQ of 160 or an IQ of 100.
thank you
Gene Tierney, one of the most beautiful women EVER
I wouldn't either (although my wife would!)
MoDo doesn't get it. She comes across as a bitter psycho-b*tch, and then wonders why guys aren't banging on her door
That's what a lot of women don't get, as I noted in my # 82
When guys look for a woman, having her be somebody they can enjoy life with is very high on the scale. What she makes is generally much lower on the priority list, particularly for the more successful men who already have the money they need
What many career women don't understand (or refuse to understand) is that, for many men, the purpose of a successful career is to enable them to attract and keep a woman who will have an interest in keeping them happy
If the woman does a good job of making him happy, the guy won't care if she's CEO or cleaning lady
My thought exactly. Glad I searched first to avoid repeating repeating the comment.
Friedan flat out lied when she talked about marriage as a "comfortable concentration camp." She was lying about her own marriage (she dominated her husband from the gitgo), and she was lying about the real nature of most marriages. Gender complimentarity, and the sex roles that go along with it, have evolved over eons. The deep satisfactions that comprise those "comfortable" roles are, I would say, virtually impossible to eradicate, at least certainly not by a few pea-brained rhetoriticians, Friedan, Jong, Steinhem, MacKinnon, Dworkin, Dowd, et al.
Bingo. All this relationship garbage about men needing to be the hunter relates only to the 5% of males who feel comfortable (or cocky enough) going up to a lady completely cold knowing nothing having nothing in common and laying down some speel to get her to go out with you. These 5% work completely different than all the other guys.
The other 95% vary from slightly to immensely uncomfortable with this dating tactic.
To this majority, a woman showing interest (let alone respect and admiration) is something so valuable as to be considered priceless.
The only thing you have to take into account is that his first reaction is probably gonna be wondering whether or not your setting him up to burn him somehow. But with steadfast attention a good woman can turn any guy around.
Its funny thinking about MoDo and her type who would laugh derisively at a Jim-Bob, but think its the height of sophistication for a woman to have a hyphenated surname.
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