[najida]

1. Ladies, how would you feel about your guy if he was getting off on porn?

Funny you should ask that! Just this week, a friend I hadn't seen in a while sat on my porch telling me about her divorce last year.

And I'll preface this with she's very pretty, gorgeous body and just a fun good ole girl. Not prissy, not prudey.....and oh yeah, she's one of my dance students.

Hubby was into porn, she found out when they got married, and her reaction was "That's like another woman in our marriage!" but he insisted he 'needed' it because his drive was so much greater than hers.

(Say what?!?.....That knocked her socks off as well as mine, cuz she's got drive, lots of it...) Anyhow, Seems hubby got to where he would flatly refuse sex with her, but she'd wake up at 3am and find in my the living room watching porn. She'd go to be and cry about it, but try again later.

Time passed, and the next time she found him in the Living room, he was into stuff so off the wall that she basically moved out the next day.

She looked him in the eye and said "You're at a point where 'normal' sex with your 'normal' wife won't do it for you anymore" and the jerk agreed.

Oh well, She's dating a River Pilot now who thinks she hung the moon.

Oh yeah, and my biggest complaint with porn is that most of it's actors would disappear if all child molestation and incest stopped. Granted, not ALL of it's actors, but most....expecially those without one itty bitty shred of self esteem left (That is why it creeps me out).

[tongue-tied]

hmmm....as I told someone else on this thread in a private reply, maybe it isn't as harmless as I've always thought.

Having said that, normal curiosity gets the better of me here: what is the abnormal stuff he and his wife agreed he would now "seek"? Sorry, but have to lol a little....goats? Fecal matter? How weird is weird in this case?

All joking aside, she's better off with the River Pilot obviously, if hubby was so quick to dismiss her.

[manwiththehands]

I've heard this story so many times. Us guys (and our decadent, sex-addicted society in general) can be very hypocritical when it comes to porn. It seems to be much more common with guys, but if our lady does the same thing?!?!? Oh, well, hell, she must be a "slut" or a "tramp". I'm glad to hear life seems to be working out for your friend. I've known how her new guy feels. It can only be good for both of them. :)

[redgolum]

A similar thing happened to my first cousin. Her ex was so into porn, that regular sex with his wife would not turn him on.

He ended up cheating on her, and we are not 100% it wasn't with a man and a woman.

Porn, like everything else you let into your head, teaches thought patterns.