You guys have a marriage like ours. I stayed home too and believe me...we could have used the extra money I could have made but...the kids had what they needed. They had Sunday shoes and clothes. They had play clothes, food on the table, a warm bed to sleep in at night, shared toys, plenty of books to read and be read to, snacks (crackers and juice) and anything else they needed. Did we need an extra room or an extra room just for play things? Not no but hell no. They were thrilled to death at Christmas or their birthday to get presents becuase they didn't get stuff all year long. Coloring books or paper dolls or jacks or something like that but that was it. They appreciated and loved the toys that Santa brought them on Christmas morning.
Your arrangement is fine. We all pull together to help each other in the family so that we can all have spare time to spend together. That's what love and family is all about...not expensive shoes and designer clothing. Who benefits from the big brands except the BIG BRAND PEOPLE. Certainly not the children.
Keep up the good work you KNOW what family should be. Sacrifice on the parents part too is important. your children should come first then what is left goes to the parents. That's how we did it. That's our our parents did it and we loved them for it and our kids loved us for it and they STILL thank us to this day and tell us they hope they can be half the parents we were. That's nice believe me and we're not looking for credit...it's just that it is nice to know you did the right things most of the time or your children wouldn't want to be like you at all.
God, Country, Family.