Here is what you typed in the first post:
You know, everytime I read something about a divorced dad going off his rocker and kidnapping his kids and killing himself and them, all I can think is: why is anyone surprised, except that it doesn't happen more often?
Then you talked about men being "disenfranchised". (Pardon me while I pause to laugh). ;-)
Here's what you typed in the next post:
In an environment that pushes people to the edge, it's necessary to UNDERSTAND without excusing the weak ones that go over the edge.
Then you compared men going over the edge, kidnapping their children, and becoming suicidal/homicidal to women with anorexia. While I "understand" how a woman might become anorexic, just as I "understand" how a man might "kidnap" his own children, or even how a depressed person might become suicidal, the only thing there is to "understand" about someone committing murder is that he/she was a POS to begin with.
That's why I tried to give you an out - by saying that maybe you misworded that line. But I guess you really meant it. Do you "understand" carjackers and rapists and burglars, too? Come on, now, you have to admit that part of your statement was over the top. All you have to do is take that part back! Everyone types something in a moment of passion here and there, and there's no harm in correcting your statement.
As for your experiences and observations, they are FAR different from my own. There's nothing more to discuss about that. We each view things through our own experiences and observations.
As I already stated again and again, a woman who breaks up a marriage should NOT be given primary custody. Primary custody should be given to the parent who did NOT cheat or abuse the other parent. Otherwise, primary custody SHOULD GO to the mother. If the parents never marry in the first place, the mother should be given primary custody. You're not going to change MY mind.
But we can have women having fun being knocked-up and then have the scot-free "right" to be financially supported by the source-o-fun for the rearing of that child for the next 18 years?
Have you ever carried a pregnancy and given birth? While it's a beautiful and wondrous experience, a memory that I will always treasure, "fun" is not what I'd call it. But, hey, maybe that's just me.
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All you have to do is take that part back!
That reveals more than anything you've written. Condescending, patronizing, interpreting concepts by emotion rather than reason -- and then demanding an apology! |^)
You sound like a typical woman. I'm a woman, too, just not typical. Men are easy to understand because emotional manipulation, semantics, and mind games aren't typically their MO in romance or debate; with them, it's usually what you see is what you get -- indeed the problem is often with women who don't want to see what it is they're getting. Typical women generally cook-up the kind of mental gumbo you've served up here so well. Lady, I feel kind of sorry for your husband.