And as soon as he gets her pregnant I guess he resents her for the baggage that now makes her feel a ~need~ to stay with him. After all, his formerly unencumbered bride now just wants a father for her children, and he's ~still~ the hapless victim.
I guess once you have kids, whether you're married or not, you can no longer be a good companion and spouse for another person.... it's all just about entrapment from there on out.
Preposterous.
It's more than kids that get labled as baggage for a woman...
Baggage isn't all negative.
If she's had any other relationships,
If she's had any other life experiences that doesn't include him.
If she doesn't present herself as a blank slate without any expections or desires.
Baggage for a woman translates into "I can look at you and compare you to others, maybe even see you as you really are."
And that, IMHO, is why men are terrified of it. It's that primal, territorial, competitive thing....meaning she, that female that makes him feel out of control, can reject him and find him wanting based on what she knows of other men.
But I could be wrong ;)
That depends on why the couple got married in the first place.
How did that old fashioned rhyme go?
"First comes love. Then comes marriage. Then comes the baby in the baby carriage."
.......it's all just about entrapment from there on out.
Sometimes it is, especially if the child was there before the marriage.
Preposterous.
Only "it's all just about this" or "it's always that" statements are preposterous.
The advice "Look very carefully before you jump" is not preposterous. It is common sense.