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So Arthur- what are you saying- I am doomed because I chose to become an attorney?

OK, so I want to hear from the guys on this one--do you men REALLY take a look at a woman expecting to be divorced from her someday? Do you look and say "if/when we get divorced on what level would I get screwed?"

That is so sad!

what are you saying- I am doomed because I chose to become an attorney?

I am saying that your career choice makes you poison for a man.With the law and the judges stacked against him, why on earth would an intelligent man marry a lady lawyer?

I am doomed because I chose to become an attorney?

soul-searching questions (answer honestly to yourself, not necessarily on this thread):
Why did you choose to be a lawyer?
where you not aware of the general societal view of lawyers when you went to law school and when you took the bar?
Do you define yourself as a lawyer, as say, opposed to a Christian, a painter, a historian, etc?
where you aware that most starting lawyers work 70-80 hours a week and that many never stop that?
What do you have to offer a man--in essence why should any guy go out with you or marry you?
There are plenty of guys who would be interested in you, but being a lawyer is no great advantage in finding a conservative guy--you need to seriously evaluate your non-lawyer self: is there anything there other than law? If not, then find an area of law (like agricultural law), where you will rub elbows with men who are different than you, but might find you interesting.

as for me, I went to law school in my 40s (in that town which will probably have me forever banned from Freeperville--Ithaca, NY, at Cornell Law School), I was married with four children (boy was that a wild ride. I am a licensed attorney, but my thinking is not so much as a lawyer, but as a historian and theologian, and my family came before the law(both temporally and practically). I had no illusions about lawyers--in fact I shared the societal view until I went to law school and began to see the importance of rule by law.

OK, so I want to hear from the guys on this one--do you men REALLY take a look at a woman expecting to be divorced from her someday? Do you look and say "if/when we get divorced on what level would I get screwed?"

I saw what happened to many of my male friends, none of whom were idiots, all of whom genuinely tried to make their marriages work, and most of whom were seriously damaged emotionally and financially by the divorces that their wives initiated. After that I concluded that it would be insane for a man NOT to plan for a divorce if he decided to marry. (You are right, this is very sad, glad you noticed.)

OTOH I do know one local guy who was divorced by his wife for what I thought were good reasons -- he is charming, but an alcoholic -- who explained to me that while his wife had every opportunity to destroy him in the divorce, she had not abused her power, but was reasonable and even kind. I was shocked. In my experience real women simply did not behave that way during and after a divorce. She was so exceptional that I now think of her as something of a saint.