OK, so I want to hear from the guys on this one--do you men REALLY take a look at a woman expecting to be divorced from her someday? Do you look and say "if/when we get divorced on what level would I get screwed?"
That is so sad!
The society, the government, everything, tells women that having a man in the house is at best, neutral in the raising of children, and more often is harmful.
No. I am not a bitter divorce. I am contentedly married these last 35 years. But I tell my son he is a fool to contemplate marriage. He will be relatively affluent in 10 years and his wife will have zero economic motivation to stay with him and zero social motivation and lots of pressure from the system to divorce him and secure his income stream for herself and whatever boyfriends she chooses to move in with. No court will consider anything in his favor.
From observation of the people around me, it appears that a man is more apt to be permitted to see his children after a court fight if he never married the mother in the first place.
I know one fellow who, barred from seeing his 2 children at all, had his child support payments raised because the ex had another baby that was not his and was not claimed to be his. The children's welfare is, after all, the main consideration.
On the odds, a young man is a pure fool to get married in Modern American. The original biological attraction for marriage was sex and connection to his children. The first is free and relatively easy without all that paperwork and the second is officially denigrated and evermore tenuous. With the courts grotesquely stacked against a man, why on earth would he even consider marrying a lawyer ?????