Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is — unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' — unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' — women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
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Bingo. Sounds old fashioned to some? But it's worked better that way for thousands of years, than what "modern society" is giving us recently.
There's a young 30's babe-o-licious high ranking Nationsbank Executive in Charlotte who bought herself a boy-toy sunbleached windsurfer type, married him and put him up in her home on Lake Norman.
I wonder how long she'll keep him?
Nationsbank=BankofAmerica
There are few qualities that are more uninspiring than a lack of humility. I sense that there is this lack in the lady who authored the letter. As such, she might be beautiful like a statue, but lack the warmth to be beautiful like a real woman.
Regards, Ivan
Precisely. People make choices. Choices have consequences.
I'm not but you did make the choice and now you must live with the trade offs. LIke I said you want your cake and eat it too.
I agree. I believe anyone can find someone to love if they put some work into it. It's a job finding love and it's a job keeping love....but the pay is so damn good!
Until she's 40 and he moves on to the next shallow woman who wants a boy toy.
Regards, Ivan
Chopped Liver is just chopped liver. She does not see the reason MEN don't want her is that she has lived as a male and is now the proud recipient of her own wishes.
She lived by the philosopy that men are unnecessary and is pathetically shocked when all men have concluded they can equally live without her.
She is just irrelevant to men.
Just for another take....
I think many have overlooked the simple issue of time.
Relationship building takes time and women in excutive positions have exactly the same time issues as do men in executive positions -- they don't have any time.
Women who are available are more easily dated than those who aren't.
"I wonder how long she'll keep him?"
'till he's all used up.
so what would be the case in your experience?
Speaking for myself, I have a career because I need to support myself, not because I choice a career over a husband and family.
If I were to marry I would gladly give up my "career" to put my family first
There are plently of us who haven't bought into the lie of feminism
You obviously don't know women as well as you claim or you won't make incorrect general assumptions about all women
And good riddance--no man wants a self-centered, neurotic, anorexic, social-climbing clothes horse.
Her type are all too common.
The only thing I would like less is dating a female 'Senior Vice President' so I can be her fashion accessory, or house-husband.... Blech!
Oh I get it. She was supposed to barely graduate high school. Get her claws into a man. Marry him and drain him of everything he has. Divorce him and demand he continue to provide for her. Move on to the next chump and repeat the process over and over again.
You don't even know this woman and you have branded her as a controlling bitch and you're calling me naive?
women like that mistake being "bossy" for being the boss.
They also mistake people doing what you tell them for respect.
I know many female lawyers that fall into the "bossy" mistake. you can just tell they are going to die with 20 cats in their house.
She wants to be treated like Diana?!?
"Let me provide you with a clue....women like to be pursued and courted"
What they like and what they will get are no longer the rules of the game. You've come a long way baby. Welcome to the world equality in the world of the modern day meat market. Im so happy to be married and out of that world.
My next pursuit is to join the local shooting club. Not to meet men, but to learn to handle firearms. However, if I should happen to meet a nice eligible gentleman there, that would be just neat.
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