Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
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Absolutely beautiful! Done with the precision of a master surgeon. :-)
It wasn't quite what I wanted, but sufficient.
Regards, Ivan
LOL!!
Now that was funny!
"How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date? "
Mayby it is men avoiding you? What I am seeing is the classic tall succesfull white woman syndrome. She said I was a model which says "I am the standard by which all should be measured." This is a big limb to jump off of but I think the lady has a mental disorder. She is looking for someone to be the dominant over her. Someone she wants to bow down to. Her own domestic God if you will.
If she marries a person of like type it will end in a divorce. She needs a Beta male-but more than likely she will treat him like crap and not respect him. So I think it is high time for this beeeatch to go lesbo.
Speaking from experience, that doesn't seem to be the case.
If you're looking for someone who is a good drinker, go to the bar.
It did it's job and shut her right down. Be proud....I don't get alot of moments like that in my life.
That's been my observation too. Not that many women want a guy who earns less than them, or has less status. At the right extreme of the bell curve, that means the women have just a tiny population to pick from, while successful, high-status men have almost the entire female population to pick from.
The advantage the secretary has over the executive is that the secretary is more likely to try hard to get and keep the guy's attention
My guess is you probably don't look it. Fact is, when a man's looking at a woman he's not wondering what her age is, he's looking at how attractive she is.
I agree. I was married to someone for 26yrs that couldn't make decisions and it was h*ll. I would prefer an emotionally strong man that can take charge as needed... is strong in their convictions and is unwavering in the fray. Alas......GWB is taken! *chuckle*
drive a cute little BMW
You're coming up, I remember when you first started posting here and were trying for that coveted freeper ticket to the
2000 convention.
You had my vote!
Good luck for the future.
For lonly female executives looking for a mate: they won't find the kind of man they want in a dim bar. They might try leaving their attitudes and desperation at home, getting out of their cars and expensive clothing and walking their pet dog and/or taking up a hobby such as golf, horsebacking, sailing, etc.......activities that real men like.
They'll find there are some interesting males out there...and who knows? one perfect (for them) male just may stop and ask about the dog.
The letter say's chopped liver is 32, not 102.
People come for all sorts of reasons. Once they are there, good things can happen. If they are not there, it is much more difficult (but not impossible) to reach them.
Part of what makes churches attractive is the community. Career people are often so focused on their jobs they are divorced from real community. But in every town and city there are many thriving communities open to anybody who cares to walk in the door.
The community is the church in action, living the mission given to them. Anybody who wants to genuinely participate in that is on the right track, regardless of motivation, IMHO.
Oh my God is that crap. I thank the Lord that my spouse didn't require such high school-like thinking in our relationship.
And as far as choosing to be a leader at home when I became an attorney- 1) that's ridiculous and 2) it's not going to be traditionally male for much longer and 3) I am a woman that can take it off when I come home and let my feminine side come through at home, where it belongs. I know there are women that can't, and that is the alpha male-women you guys are talking about. But you can't punish a woman for becoming an attorney.
That matters not......YOU go after the kind of women YOU want
John Wayne TODAY could still find his Maurenn O'Hara
Doesn't take a mind reader to know within a short period of time if your on a date with a feminist or a conservative
It sounds like you are dealing with men who are very insecure with themselves and their manhood.
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