"How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date? "
Mayby it is men avoiding you? What I am seeing is the classic tall succesfull white woman syndrome. She said I was a model which says "I am the standard by which all should be measured." This is a big limb to jump off of but I think the lady has a mental disorder. She is looking for someone to be the dominant over her. Someone she wants to bow down to. Her own domestic God if you will.
If she marries a person of like type it will end in a divorce. She needs a Beta male-but more than likely she will treat him like crap and not respect him. So I think it is high time for this beeeatch to go lesbo.
That's a possibility that a lot of women seldom seriously consider. I have often heard 'he left before he really got to know me,' or 'he didn't get to know me well,' etc.
Actually, maybe they left because they got to know you and decided you weren't what he was looking for.
Men & women do that all the time. It's part of the courtship conventions. It's not a bad thing.
I have always found it funny that people look at things that way, though: it appears to them that if someone did get to know them, it would somehow be much less likely they would be disinterested. In my experience, the more I get to know lots of people, the more disinterested I get in them!