Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
(Excerpt) Read more at mcall.com ...
Guys are expected to persue and court. What we really like, though, is an unambiguous "green light" that communicates "I like what I see in you -- if you ask me nicely, I WILL say yes (and not sue you for harassment!)".
Oh my gosh...that is so desireable!
Why would I want to sign up for that?
You're drawing ever nearer to the reasoning behind my "nein, danke" reply. Well done. ;)
Regards, Ivan
Nice to know I am not out of style!
"Men also like to be pursued as well and there is no reason why a woman shouldn't do the pursuing."
I say chase the men until they catch you!!
As was clear, she was hardly a "hot mama". More like gutter glitter.
Regards, Ivan
The men at the top are marrying down 'cuz they don't want to deal with the female VPs at home as well as at work!
Tell me more about your pie.
yes, that is my view as well....no male is good enough for them....which accounts for the rise of same sex relationships, as recently reported....women wanted to be incharge, so now they are incharge, so I say enjoy your empty abode...
Why would I want to sign up for that?
Same question I'd ask. Nice to know what she's wanting, but what is she offering?
How is the traditional and biological reality of a man pursuing a woman a headgame?
Women like that are 90% full of crap. I bet her inability to meet people has a hell of a lot more to do with her than some weird anti-smart-powerful-woman problem on the men's part.
LOL!, thanks for a dose of reality
Very good. I feel like one of the few women who has actually seen the light in this area. Most women have less of a clue about men than men have about women.
Anybody who could write something that beautiful and profound should be able to get a lady! Surely there are women in England other than the type you went out with who wanted the fancy watch. Maybe try online dating to weed out the wrong types?
Nah, considering the divorce rate I'd say we're equally clueless.
Exactly.
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