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Posted on 09/06/2005 11:05:03 AM PDT by ExitPurgamentum
by Margaret Friedlander Brinig, Douglas Allen
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'These Boots are Made for Walking': Why Most Divorce Filers are Women
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Abstract: Because of the financial and social hardship faced after divorce, most people assume that generally husbands have instigated divorce since the introduction of no-fault divorce. Yet women file for divorce and are often the instigators of separation, despite a deep attachment to their children and the evidence that many divorces harm children. Furthermore, divorced women in large numbers reveal that they are happier than they were while married. They report relief and certainty that they were right in leaving their marriages. This fundamental puzzle suggests that the incentives to divorce require a reexamination, and that the forces affecting the net benefits from marriage may be quite complicated, and perhaps asymmetric between men and women. This paper considers women's filing as rational behavior, based on spouses' relative power in the marriage, their opportunities following divorce, and their anticipation of custody. |
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Experience is a harsh teacher. You get the final exam, and then the lesson...
Woman to woman, you need to take it down a notch. There are many wonderful men, it seems like you're just screaming at them.
The world is a wonderful place when men and women can understand our differences and appreciate one another for them.
You seem like one who's had to be both mom and dad, I sympathize and understand the pressure you've gone thru. But as mom used to tell us, you catch more bees with honey than vinegar.
Wichita? Well I meant Wichita not the whole of kansas, sorry.
Your state flag shows Kansas and you say that? Uh oh, Toto, we're not in Kansas anymore. Perhaps if you move to California, you'll have a wonderful appreciation of women in Kansas.
Unless you know the situation and what each person has experienced, I would refrain from giving advice. JMO
When articles and studies speak of averages and trends, it should be understood there are exceptions and unique cases. I could complain that there is not enough written or said about deadbeat moms and single fathers raising their own children by themselves. But I don't, as the generalization and trends still hold.
Au contraire, in my case getting married in the early sixties, "no wife of his was going to work or go to school" Thank God, when I got rid of the masochist I did it on my own and have never been happier. Been married to the 2nd husband for 18 yrs. now and am as happy as the day I married him. Solution: find a man who is not insecure !!
Many men are insecure, that's why they can't let go. Just take a look at this the responses here. They think it's a conspiracy.
Some women who divorce do so because of their husband's verbal abuse and threats of domestic violence. It's unhealthy for children to witness this. Often alcohol is the problem.
Perhaps. But seeing your home page with your husband, I don't picture you as a male basher. I think I have the right to say that I've suffered as well but I wouldn't bash all males as horrible and insensitive creeps.
LOl. And the women that marry insecure men are......what? Save your rants for Vogue and Womens Day. Insecure men, piff...if you want a real man he'll be out working all day long, not hanging around the bar waiting for sorority girls to come ask for a date.....
Is that why they call it "bitching"?
Insecure men are created by critical women.
bug duh
Yes.
So have I noticed that. Also, I have noticed that they are less likely to have these addiction problems and substance abuse, which florish among those who abandon their marriages.
In some cases, divorce is the only way to dissolve an unhappy or violent union. But in a lot of these easy divorces, it is some ridiculous notion that gets into people's heads, that they can go out and shop for a new partner. Much unhappiness results.
Looking for the true Mr. Johnson.
Thanks, I understand better now.
Yes. And the money should be accounted for. If the ex's want to play hide the salami with other people, it's time for "maintenance" to end. As long as you are being "maintained" you are owned. At least morally.
I'm just curious. I don't get support or sleep around, but I thought that was an odd comment. So, visa versa works? You'd report in... ?
Only if I was being "maintained". Once you become an independent adult, you can do what you want. If someone else is supporting you, they have a right to know what they are supporting, IMHO.
That's why support sucks.
It must be so for you, because this is not about the courts: it's about the statutes and about the impact of PAST court decisions.
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