>>There will always be a new crop, that wants to tie the knot with their one true love. Having been through one divorce myself, I'm very glad I took another dive into the marriage pool. The second time around was a winner.<<
Same here. But you BOTH have to be committed.
I look at it like this: If someone gives you a car and says it is the only one you will ever get, you will take care of it, change the oil, do the maintenance, touch up rust spots, etc. If you go in thinking, "hey, when it stops tickling my fancy I can always trade it in," you may not invest yourself in keeping it running. It is doomed from the getgo.
If both parties truly go into marriage with the "this is all I get" attitude and keep it, the marriage will probably survive.
Oh, and one other thing. EVERYONE is loveable and hateable. If you fall out of love with your mate, it is not their responsibility, it is yours.
One person can't make a marriage. You're absolutely right.
One person may carry the water for a while and the other person carry it later on, but both have to work at it, and preferable at the same time all the time.
Thanks for the comments.