This should be prevented (using the Gold Star Mother/Father status for fund-raising). I agree. If you have any idea who to call (make sure they're not left though) and get their ear about stopping that. Do it. Anything we can do legitimately to declaw them and put a cog in their spokes we should be doing.
You have to believe that literally thousands of mothers from this war and past wars are suffering because of Cindy's cynical friends who cooked this travesty up. To steal the good name of the Gold Star Mothers and wrap their message of despair and betrayal with the efforts of these brave women.