Older women are wonderfully useful-- I'm 46 myself, and just re-married this year to my long-time sweetie, who is 13 years my senior. After raising my daughters together for the last 14 years, we're looking forward to travelling and being alone together finally (sort of a perpetual honeymoon!) since I just deposited my youngest in her new college dorm room earlier this week.
And, someday (not soon!) I hope to have grand-children and to be able to help my daughters with them from time to time, and to be important in the childrens' lives.
I am lucky, I know, but my point is that older women can live wonderful, rich lives. My church is full of wonderful older women-- busy and helpful and giving women.
It's just that I firmly believe that a 40 year old man has no business with a 60 year old woman. She provides a mother figure, whereas he should be progressing to becoming a mature middle-aged man himself-- a husband and father. There's NOTHING attractive about a 40 year old boy. People are supposed to grow up. And, a 60 year old woman who is interested in that younger man hasn't grown up herself.
When I was younger, I would have said that it was all ok, whatever cranks their clocks, but since I've gotten older myself, I realize that people are SUPPOSED to pass through the progressive stages of life, occupying the right slot at the right age, helping others, and showing younger people how to lead a rich, useful, and good life.
There's NOTHING attractive about a 40 year old boy.
Speak for yourself. ;)
When I was younger, I would have said that it was all ok, whatever cranks their clocks, but since I've gotten older myself, I realize that people are SUPPOSED to pass through the progressive stages of life, occupying the right slot at the right age, helping others, and showing younger people how to lead a rich, useful, and good life.
That is what you believe, and it sounds good on paper. But not all of use fit into that mold. Maybe all I can show younger folks that you can be happy just being yourself. That somethings don't get fixed about yourself until about 5 minutes before you die.
Honestly, that is the only advice I can offer anyone right now.
That and I believe RV's are the work of Satan.
That if you try to fit into slots that others tell you to fit in, you'll be living in hell; miserable until you die a sad old person just wishing you hadn't listened to all those dang fools telling you what you couldn't do.
My only purpose in life right now is to write down all the stories that I know and not end up in jail at some point.
PS-
My late hubby was older, won't make that mistake again.
PSS-"Busy, helpful and giving" sounds like church speak for 'your life is over hun'.
No thanks.
And visa versa.
You aren't a "boy" at 40. You are a middle-aged man. JFK was 43 when he became POTUS.