[John O]

There's got to be something else you're supposed to grow into, some better label for a grown up than 'bad boy'

The word you are looking for is "man". Not guy or boy or even male but "Man"

There are so few real men around anymore. Someone like John Wayne or Jimmy Stewart. Strong yet sensitive when needs to be. The perfect man was probabl;y John Wayne in the movie "the quiet man". He could kick tail if he needed to but wasn't too concerned about what other people thought.

There's so few of us left and most boys these days never really grow up into men.

[Lazamataz]

The perfect man was probably John Wayne in the movie

I disagree. I am perfect enough for me. I'm still growing, obviously, and improving in every way I can -- yet at every moment, I am perfect in my development.