I don't know about that, really, at least for the long haul. Most men I know (my husband included) don't care if you look like a Victoria's Secret model if you are a complete you-know-what to live with. It just ain't worth it, kwim?
But the women on women seething hatred of skinny girls is shocking.
But it's not something many people will acknowlege, frankly. It does go both ways, however. On the other hand, women on women hatred is some of the nastiest stuff you'll ever see. And it doesn't matter what the cause is, either. That's why my best buddies are Mr. Ex and my sister-in-law...(brother's wife). :)
Boy, that's the truth. I stay a trim and fit 125 pounds (I'm 5' 6") by exercising and eating a healthy diet with tons of fresh veggies and fruit, whole grains, low-fat, no red meat.
Almost without exception the women at work are fat sows, and there is a constant parade of cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc in our building. Every week or so there is a fund-raising luncheon serving chili dogs with Fritos and one of those bakery cookies with the pink frosting, or some such garbage.
I am given a constant ration of $*** by all the other women for resisting this junk. They'll try to arm-twist me into having some, and then laugh at me when I politely refuse. And I am polite, but I do a lot of teeth-gritting.