Posted on 08/13/2005 1:35:10 AM PDT by nickcarraway
THE woman's long black hair whipped across her pale face as she danced to punk rock at the bar. She seemed to be the life of the party. Little did she know that she was igniting a girl crush. Susan Buice was watching, and she was smitten.
Ms. Buice, 26, and the dancer (actually a clothing designer) happen to live in the same Brooklyn apartment building, so Ms. Buice, a filmmaker, was later able to soak up many other aspects of her neighbor's gritty yet feminine style: her layered gold necklaces; her fitted jackets; her dark, oversize sunglasses; and her Christian Dior perfume.
"I'm immediately nervous around her," Ms Buice said. "I stammer around her, and it's definitely because I think she's supercool."
Ms. Buice, who lives with her boyfriend, calls her attraction a girl crush, a phrase that many women in their 20's and 30's use in conversation, post on blogs and read in magazines. It refers to that fervent infatuation that one heterosexual woman develops for another woman who may seem impossibly sophisticated, gifted, beautiful or accomplished. And while a girl crush is, by its informal definition, not sexual in nature, the feelings that it triggers - excitement, nervousness, a sense of novelty - are very much like those that accompany a new romance.
This is not a new phenomenon. Women, especially young women, have always had such feelings of adoration for each other. Social scientists suspect such emotions are part of women's nature, feelings that evolution may have favored because they helped women bond with one another and work cooperatively. What's new is the current generation's willingness to express their ardor frankly.
"Historically, talking about these kinds of feelings has gone in and out of fashion,"
(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...
I laugh every time I look at it. There's just something so human about that picture.
LOL
Humor is rooted in reality.
So, you're saying that Ruth and Naomi may have been the first "girl crush" situation? Good grief, Charlie Brown.
":^(
Sheesh. You can't make this stuff up.
Why? As a female, I find it to be very true. And very sad.
"Another episode from the New York Times' continuing series of "Lifestyles of the Shallow and Stupid..."
Tell me about it! This sort of emotion is appropriate to the 9 to 15yr age group. These "adults" are seriously emotionally retarded.
Ok, fire then!
Well, you can tell who actually read the article and understood it vice the folks who had a knee-jerk reaction at the headline or lead.
"Social scientists suspect such emotions are part of women's nature, feelings that evolution may have favored because they helped women bond with one another and work cooperatively."
Evolution of emotion? Really? I wonder what the genetic structure of that looks like? Nice "just-so story" about the evolutionary advantages. The evolution of cooperation.
Also, Maybe because there are at least 10 righteous people still left. Genesis 18:32
(Denny Crane: "Sometimes you can only look for answers from God and failing that... and Fox News".)
Yep, that sounds very adult.
Insipid, self-absored, Lesbo-American twit bump for later.
What? A NY Times reporter suggesting that women might be genetically different in their emotions from men?
In the crapola of leftwing liturgy, "bonding" and "cooperation" are considered high virtues. Therefore it is permissible and even desirable to explain why they distinguish womyn from those eeeevil men.
Good analysis, IMO. But we don't dare suggest that men and women's intelligence might vary in any way!
Well, no. But I just wanted to point out a touching Bible story about a wonderful friendship among two women.
That you should even consider debasing the beautiful story of Ruth and Naomi with this tripe of a story from the NYT, makes me question your brain functions. Ruth was such a good example of devotion to her elderly mother-in-law that, though she had been a heathen Moabitess, she later married Boaz, thus becoming an ancestor of the Savior. Watch your mouth.
Not necessarily. I'm neither stupid nor liberal, and I had a few nonsexual "crushes" like that in my late teens and early twenties. A good friend's younger sister seems to have had one on me when she was in her early twenties. I just don't think they're important enough to warrant newspaper coverage. But it's an interesting phenomenon IMO - on reflection, I'd say that it's a last ditch "eek, I'm almost a grownup!" check for role models.
Now what it says that New York women are still looking for role models in their thirties is another matter altogether.
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