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Speaking from experience, if you go through a reputable agency, it is VERY difficult to adopt from Russia. Korea (a non-caucasian country) is much easier -- no travel involved, the child can be escorted here.

But that's just my point. You went through a reputable agency and had a difficult time. But the said truth is, a stark raving lunatic can go to an adoption broker and essentially buy a Russian child.

Korea actually has very strict requirements - there are age, marital and weight requirements. You're right that if you meet the criteria, the process in just about any other country is much smoother. In Russia, the process is largely unregulated. There aren't laws protecting abandoned children.

And maybe the people who choose to adopt white children do so not because of themselves, but because of the communities and families they live in.

I went out of my way not to offend decent adoptive parents in my post. I myself am an adoptive parent - two of my children are from Viet Nam. My children are now grown and several of them have already adopted and are currently in the process of adopting internationally again. If you're looking to be offended by what I've posted, go ahead.

Not terribly offended, actually, conceding your point that there IS racism, only it's not always in the adoptive parents themselves -- sometimes it's in potential grandparents or other relatives. Extended family is a major component of raising well-adjusted children, and having relatives who don't like you as much as your cousins because you don't look like them is an issue.

You obviously did a wonderful job giving your children healthy attitudes toward adoption if they are adoptive parents themselves. I hope when our daughter is grown she will look positively on the fact she joined our family. (Right now, she's thirteen, so that may explain a lot).