Posted on 07/13/2005 12:16:21 AM PDT by rawhide
NEW YORK — This summer, hide your bridesmaids.
So warns the promo for this weekend's new movie, "Wedding Crashers", which is about a couple of bachelors who show up at weddings uninvited to prey on lonely bridesmaids and especially desperate female guests.
The movie cashes in on two common stereotypes about weddings: that women hate attending nuptials alone, and that men, realizing how vulnerable weddings make single women feel, use the occasions to their advantage.
But how are true are these generalizations?
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Not true. For example, Catherine Zeta-Jones is super duper creamy hot. One of the reasons is that she exhibits an enormous amount of class. That she's plays golf doesn't hurt either. We're shallow, but not puddles.
I always rather liked Ali MacGraw's answer to a similar question ("What have you been doing this summer?") in the movie Love Story. She shut up that snobby woman in seconds flat with her creative response. :o)
Eons. Millenia. Geologic time.
Security (and paper plates) aside, I just think guests should be invited, personally. And if someone gets an invitation and doesn't want to attend, for whatever reason, they can decline. Life's too short to attend events you don't want to attend, with people you don't know or like.
I apply this rule when my husband gets invitations for social events at work. I ask, "Did he invite you and me, personally, by name, in writing?" "No, just sent an email to everyone in the group." I don't consider that an invitation that's worth getting a babysitter for seven kids.
I standcorrected.
LOL! Thank you. I will have to enlighten my daughters. I liked it when he said I was hot, I will have to admit. No one had ever said that to me before. However, when my daughters said what they did, it made me feel very bad.
The "and guest" may be more and more usual today, but that doesn't make right.
More and more people here write "anyways", which isn't even a word, when they mean ANYWAY. Because it is now used more and more, does that then make it correct?
And if cousin so and so shows up with some stranger, THAT IS RUDE and while a place and food would somehow be found,I guess.But it would NOT be me, who would be ashamed at having him/her thrown out. The cousin should have alerted whomever was throwing the wedding...even IF it was a very informal wedding.
use the occasions to their advantage
Worked for me but it wasn't me that made them "vulnerable".
When one follows the rules, one usually winds up with months and months of NOTHING to do and not worrying about the HOW and WHAT to do. That's WHY there are rules and there are rules for every possible kind of wedding. Rules just make life easier. It's not about being a "snob", showing off, or anything else that has been said or thought.
HOW OR IF THIS MORONIC MOVIE IS ANYTHING LIKE WHAT OTHERS HAVE EXPERIENCED IN REAL LIFE.
Not with a girl who has morals.
Your response doesn't negate anything I said in my post you replied to. There is nothing rude about inviting "___ and guest". Nothing. You can't even make up a reasonable scenario where it's rude to invite single people that way if you don't necessarily know their current relationship situation or what it might be a few months down the road.
I just don't get why the concept so alarms you.
Earlier you said you'd expect the wedding planner who is supposedly running around with a clipboard and a list, to boot out anyone she didn't find on the list... or move them if they sat at the wrong table... That's what I was responding to. If it were my wedding and I found out anyone was treated that way I'd be appalled. The best laid plans can be thrown on the fire before I'd let that happen.
Sheesh... You really have your undies in a bunch about this movie! The movie isn't out yet, no one has seen it, obviously we can't speak to whether the plot or story is realistic or well done. Who cares?
That isn't the question posed by the article anyway... the question related to how men and women ~feel~ about going alone to weddings.
Good for you...those are great rules to follow.
Well yes
Are people who live in Arizona YANKEES? Are people who live in Texas YANKEES?
No those are good states. You can pretty much go by the map of the last election.
You really need to review your posts on this thread. They have been downright condescending. When the reverse was true you react with CAPS. I and many others here will take exception to this statement:
The thing is, when a wedding is run correctly, NO singles, who aren't engaged, or about to be, are allowed to bring a date.
That is quite wrong in the South. Maybe the Yankees run their wedding that way - that is OK. To make that blanket statement for everyone is wrong.
Now I don't want any hard feelings over the proper wedding protocols but you need to reread your posts - you are quite harsh. If you can't take it - don't dish it out.
It's not a south or north issue. I think the consensus is it's the actions of a control freak not matter where she is. "Not allowed to bring a guest unless she is engaged, or soon to be engaged".... sheesh.
You would be appalled, if so and so decided to sit next to the really beautiful girl, whose fiance had not taken his seat yet and so and so refused to move? Or some uninvited crasher or three take the seats meant for your oldest friends, or your cousin and is then removed ? Well bless your heart.
There are different rules for different kinds of weddings and if you had one ( which you didn't and I guess never would have, but stick with me...), which was a sit down whatever and were being charged per person and the food etc. had all been made, with no spare ones and a crasher or several came, you would be appalled if they were found and ousted ? Wouldn't you be MORE appalled by unconvincing your invited guests?
And yes,"and guest" without naming the person, is frowned upon.
Having just come from my nephew's wedding, this has been a fun thread. There were 'class' issues there as well, but societal ones.
'I went to a wedding reception where people drank a lot.'
You wouldn't invite me anyway, but I send my 'regrets' if there's not lots of drinking at your wedding reception.
Not really and I've seen clips of this movie.
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