(Denny Crane: "Sometimes you can only look for answers from God and failing that... and Fox News".)
Boy is that right! Tis' very unfair. IF I were to remarry should my Hubby die, I would give what my Hub left my right to my children. My "new" husband would have to support me. I could not in good conscience live off the money my current husband worked so hard for. Too many of our friends have divorced (some years ago) and BAM! The ex-wife comes back years later and asks for and GETS their ex's share of any pension money the ex-husband made during his tenure at the particular job he retired from. Never mind the ex-wife got good settlements at the time of the divorce. I think this stinks! Are men and women equal? NO! Not in cases like this.:(