Hmmm, "YOU don't go to Mass, so I refuse to teach your children the gospel."
Makes sense,,,,, maybe he can explain it to Christ at his judgement and see if he was right.
Parents are required upon requesting baptism of their children to promise that they will raise their children in the faith. If they are not even attending mass, they are violating the oath they took and in grave danger of losing their souls. The formation of Catholic children is not left solely to the Church. It is paramount that the family life foster holiness as well. Hundreds and hundreds of thousands of children received their First Holy Communion and spent the rest of their childhood absent from the sacraments. Their parents endanger the souls of their children because they live with the false security of thinking they've done the bare minimum to be a part of the Church and "to heck" with the rest of what's expected.
Are these kids better off or worse off twenty years later when they're shacking up and having same-sex intercourse or atheist or having abortions? Is the proper response, "well thank God they had their First Communion," or "Gee, I wish someone in the church had the guts to tell their parents to take their religion seriously and be role models for their children"?
Instead, people like you are worried that the "appearance" of Catholicity is preserved instead of insisting that the "essence" of Catholicity be lived and modeled for the benefit of these children.