If you want cynical, I'll give you cynical. And this comes from a reformed ambulance chaser. If Family Services had taken control of this child, the same people who are decrying their inaction would have been screaming about how the child should have been mainstreamed. No matter what, Family Services would be party defendant. A classic Scylla-Charybdis situation indeed. Mark my words, this tragic child will be morphed into a cash cow by greedy, unprincipled lawyers.
I made no comment about the actions of the parents. My only objection is to the demeaning of the older boy based on nothing but imagination and prejudice. In my society speaking ill of the dead is considered less than civil, even if one speaks the truth. To speak ill of the dead without substantiation is down right low. If the dead person is a child the the word despicable enters the conversation.
What you said about lawyers. Yes, and that goes double.