Thanks for the clarification. I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a kid who was sexually molested.
We never had that discussion, he moved to SF as soon as he could to get out of the home scene where his peers were decidedly not with him on this. It was my mom who caught him in the SF bar. She said Hi, then wondered why she and her friend were the only women in the bar. He quickly explained and that was the last contact.