Posted on 06/04/2005 4:16:25 PM PDT by wagglebee
Top 10 Reasons Adoptees Should Openly Share Their Pro-life/Adoption Testimonies
1. Adoptees are a beautiful living example of Life after Crisis pregnancy, not death.
2. It is honoring to God, to Birth Parents and to Adoptive Parents to hear an adoptee’s gratitude for Life/Adoption. ( One of the 10 Commandments exhorts us to honor our fathers and mothers. )
3. A Positive Adoption story shared is a gracious approach to advocating for Life and adoption. This is a winsome alternative to opposing abortion. Carrying protest signs with photos of dead babies can be a turn off that often antagonizes and may further alienate the opposition.
4. Those in crisis pregnancies are often advised by their peers that it is wrong to ever give up your “flesh and blood”. They may have never seen or heard the positive option of adoption through witnessing the beautiful life of an adoptee.
5. An Adoptee’s positive testimony counters the sometimes biased media stereotype of adoptee’s turning out to be troubled children and adults.
6. Adoption is not often held up as an option in crisis pregnancy in an abortion friendly “disposable” society that promotes “quick fixes”.
7. 2 million couples are waiting to adopt and an adoptee’s testimony can change the hearts of those with an abortion mindset in Crisis pregnancy. ( Statistic from Prolife Across America )
8. Earthly adoptions give us a glimpse of the more perfect eternal Adoption through our spirits with our Heavenly Father, God. This is accomplished through personal faith in His perfect Son, and by surrendering our hearts to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
9. “By a soft answer wrath is turned away, but a bitter word is a cause of angry feelings.” Proverbs 15:1 (Sharing one’s adoption testimony can convey a soft answer to unplanned pregnancies).
10.“There is an abundance of orphaned children living in our world” who need adoptees to spread the good news of adoption on their behalf.
Pro-life Ping
This is one of the only blessings that can come from such. I am childless myself. Adoption is not an option now. It is hard when people ask very personal questions like, "Are you guys trying?", "When are you planning on starting a family?", "So, you just don't want any kids?", and so on. It's hard for those with kids sometimes to see the anguish that those of us(who can't have them but who want to have one very bad) go through. I've long stopped complaining and try to deal with it the best I can, trying to prepare so that I may get a child someday. It still saddens me though, when I see some with children who take it for granted, acting like it's like going to the mall. They have a great privilege to be a mother or a father and should appreciate it every day of their lives. I know I will if I ever get that opportunity.
I'm sorry to hear about your problems. I think it is very insensitive for others to bring it up, you should just tell them it's none of their business. My prayers are with you.
I don't look on them as problems. I see it as a situation to improve myself and become stronger, as I have for 11 years. I have the wonderful opportunity to serve others' children as a first grade teacher in my community. The Lord said to share our talents and this is the best way that I know how. I get blessed immeasurably with the many miracles that I see happen in my own classroom. There's no way that it's my doing because some of the things I see have no explanation.
I do wish that people wouldn't complain so much about mundane things that in the long run, aren't really that important.
Here's a story you might like. A number of years ago (about 22) my brother-in-law came to me and said that his partner was preganant and they were considering an abortion. He knew I was a Christian and he asked me what I thought about it. I said to him that it really did not matter much what I thought rather what God thought about it (this is what he was really asking for anyway I believe). So I told him God says that it is murder to kill another human being. some 7 months later they had a little girl. They called here Mel after me. She is now 21 and absolutely beautiful. Makes me choke up everytime I think about it.
Any way we need to be honest - we don't have to be mean just tell the truth.
God Bless
Mel
Amen and amen!!
That's a wonderful story.
I am very sorry to hear about your story. My wife and I tried for 2 years to have a child, and she finally got pregnant after endometriosis surgery. Unfortunately, C.F. died as a result of a miscarriage. We recently found out that we're pregnant once more, but you are exactly right that unthinking people ask very personal (and inappropriate) questions. You're also correct that children--and even just getting pregnant--are taken for granted. I will definitely keep you in my prayers.
Here's a story you might like. A number of years ago (about 22) my brother-in-law came to me and said that his partner was preganant and they were considering an abortion. He knew I was a Christian and he asked me what I thought about it. I said to him that it really did not matter much what I thought rather what God thought about it (this is what he was really asking for anyway I believe). So I told him God says that it is murder to kill another human being. some 7 months later they had a little girl. They called here Mel after me. She is now 21 and absolutely beautiful. Makes me choke up everytime I think about it.
Any way we need to be honest - we don't have to be mean just tell the truth.
God Bless
Mel
I am adopted, and I think one should just not bring it up.
Thank you very much. I am NOT sorry for myself. I have a rich, fulfilling life, that will only be more so if I can someday have a child. Just do one thing--don't go one day without thanking God for having your child. You seem like you won't.
This posting really reminded me again of what really is important in our lives. The little mundane things we complain about aren't.
My wife's brother is adopted and he and I have talked about it several times. I think it is certainly up to the individual. I don't think it should be done in a way that disparages the birth parents or minimizes the influence of the adoptive parents. But I feel very strongly that God can show us how every aspect of our lives can be used to benefit others.
See, an adoptive parent - adopts the kid. Done.
Bump for this. My son and I returned last week from the Republic of Georgia where we attempted to encourage adoption of the many Georgian children living in orphanages right now. My son was adopted from the Republic of Georgia some 9 or 10 years ago.
Who cares if signs with dead babies antagonizes the opposition? No matter what the pro-lifers do.... Abortionists are gonna hate us. Besides, these are not "dead babies" as such. They are live fetuses (human beings) in the womb. And these type pictures are necessary as to convince the middle of the road individual who may not really understand that it's a LIFE we're talking about.
Both are choices that have to be made and lived with for the rest of that persons life.
I am adopted too, and I have my own thoughts on the subject, and I WILL NOT voice it in public.
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