[DollyCali]

Hi fivekid.. not sure we have "met" before, but let me add my two cents re: BIL / little bro...

Men need to be appreciated & respected. If he is falling now on hard times (I am guessing you mean economically) and this will help him, it is NOT bad. The fact that he is considering this line of thought is indicative that he did feel appreciated & respected when he was on active duty.

If he doesn't go he will always regret it. If he does go there are several outcomes which we are all aware of. If he understands the possibility of outcomes/costs, which I am sure he does, he needs all the encouragement & support he can get from his loved ones.

Someone merely bailing him out of his current financial dilemma would not be very good for him in long run. Again he will feel like a failure, needy etc.

Good to meet you here & keep us posted on him, okay?

[fivekid]

WOW! YOU hit the nail on the head.

that is exactly what it is.

LiL Bro.... yep.

Thank-You for your kind reply.