I think we have set a high bar for marriage so we have older brides and grooms. After alot of thought, I decided young marriages work out best. Now I know that is not always true but growing up together sort of binds you for life.
This expectation that no man would want a flaky bride is not true. Some men worship at the altar of flaky brides.
I was sort of a flaky, insecure bride. Skittish is how they describe it down here. My husband adored it,,his life mission was to "settle" me down. It worked. I am a rock solid grandmother now. He couldn't live without me nor me without him. We "smoothed" each other's rough spots!!!
I love marriage stories and think marriage is our greatest institution. It amazes me what marriage does for a person over time.
As much as I can tell, it is the same with Mary and me. She was a little "high-strung" back when I met her in 1973, but I felt I wanted to have that work for her and felt that I could help her. It has worked for her. And, she has directed my scattered and 'less-than-organized style' into something profitable and manageable. I thank her for that every day.
I too love what marriage can do, and adore the closeness that is so beautiful to see and feel grow over the years.