As much as I can tell, it is the same with Mary and me. She was a little "high-strung" back when I met her in 1973, but I felt I wanted to have that work for her and felt that I could help her. It has worked for her. And, she has directed my scattered and 'less-than-organized style' into something profitable and manageable. I thank her for that every day.
I too love what marriage can do, and adore the closeness that is so beautiful to see and feel grow over the years.
Nice isn't it. It gives a satisfaction quotient to life that is only rivaled by having children who marry well and having nice grandchildren with bright eyes and minds and hearts.