Posted on 04/28/2005 11:17:58 AM PDT by beaversmom
DEAR ELLIE: I've been living with my lady for four years; I have two kids with her, and a third one is on the way. She's three months pregnant, but lately I feel our relationship has gone cold; she gives me an attitude about everything.
She gets mad about any little thing that goes on in the house. Even with my kids she gets mad and frustrated. I honestly don't want to be the one to get tired of her attitude because of my kids and because I love her, of course, but I can only take so much.
What can I do to work this out?
FRUSTRATED
DEAR FRUSTRATED: Try this: Close your eyes and imagine yourself feeling drained of energy and nauseated, while being responsible for two youngsters and trying to keep a household and everyone's schedules running smoothly -- oh, yes, and being pleasant to everyone around. It's called putting yourself in another's shoes and I'm sure if you do it, you'll see how a hard-pressed "attitude" emerges.
I'm not saying it's easy for you to handle the cold shoulder from her, but maybe if you let her lean on your shoulder more -- tell her how much you love her (not, "of course"), and help with the kids and house -- she'll feel less overwhelmed.
However, if it doesn't work, both of you need to talk to a couples' counselor together, before the hectic needs of a new baby hit the scene.
:) bingo.
I suspect she's pissed cause she let herself get knocked up 3 times by this clown who wont marry here.
Something about buying cows and free milk.
My thoughts exactly. I homed into the fact they are not married right off the bat.
My advice is for the guy to get involved with bowling, model airplanes, drinking, or other women ...anything to take his mind off his responsibilities
Its amazing how many big, tough guys "can only take so much," but abandon their little children to the woman to keep taking it.....
Dear Moron,
Maybe she's irritated because your are cowardly piece of human garbage for not marrying her.
Or, maybe it's because she feels guilty for being an idiot slut for shacking up and having three kids.
Either way, please put the kids up for adoption and have yourselves fixed.
Regards
Suck it up, Jack, there are now more important thing in your life than your feeeeeeelings.
Ha, ha, Yes, the woman might be a violent maniac. Obviously the advice giver thinks women can do no wrong.
His lady...his kids...
It's all about him.
My wife is pregnant with twin girls. Yes there have been times where she has beendifficult. But I do not let it get to me. No matter what I try to be loving and helpful. SHe is under a lot of stress, So, I take care of things and take care of her. I work full time, go to school part time, and do the house hold chores. She needs to rest and grow our girls.
Looks like I've got it all covered. It works for me.
Yes, model airplanes...with lots of glue in a small windowless room in the basement.
DEAR FRUSTRATED: No one should have to put up with "attitude". Especially a man as important as yourself. Luckily for you it's 2005 and no one has to take responsibility for anything anymore. Pick yourself up and walk out of that house. Start living like an NBA player and treating yourself right. You DESERVE it!
If she's so GREAT why doesnt he MARRY HER?~}
now your thinking
Very good!
You're exactly right, though model airplanes will still keep him in the house. Drinking is what got me through my wife's pregnancies, though I hadn't thought of "other women." Really, there ought to be an island somewhere that pregnant women can go to where they won't bother men with their "moods."
Hope your wife and babies are doing well. She's got a good husband to take care of her.
The thrill is gone...
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