Posted on 04/10/2005 3:32:35 PM PDT by paltz
Works for me! ;-)
That's exactly the principle I have built my life around, pal! ;-)
Hahaha - the grand entrance was my idea, yes, but no vegas showgirl headdress! :-)
And anyway, isn't it funny how this topic comes up about 2x a month, and somebody consistently brings up the 'aw shucks, all the women like the jerks and avoid the nice guys!' You can set your watch by it!
This is always fascinating to me, as you know - what might be more interesting is for us to try and figure out why and how that paradigm even came to exist and be so influential.
Amazing stuff!
I don't mind butt-ugly as long as they're smart/mature and have a sense of humor.
We both still have the memory of July 4th on the 22nd floor of the Hilton with fireworks going off at eye level.
Men do get sexually excited by a woman's appearance - it's normal.
(2) Women get upset because men, especially nice men, don't talk to them much.... BUT... a MAN can get CHARGED with HARASSMENT for merely telling a woman "you look nice today", or asking out a woman ONCE, or similar. SO-- how does a man safely approach another woman, without fear of repercussions?
For practical purposes that would only apply in the workplace. A man can safely approach a woman without fear of legal entanglements by just keeping the romantic agenda outside a work environment, and by not being rude.
(3) some women say "all sex with men is rape",
I suspect these women have a 'grab bag' of what I call 'issues' or 'baggage,' and aren't the kind of women I would consider for a healthy relationship.
(4) if women do NOT want men to look at them, WHY then, do they dress in such a way, as to get men to do so?
I think women dress well and flatteringly as much to impress other women almost as they do to impress men. Women like being pretty - it's normal.
Don't take any of this type of stuff too seriously - the truth s none of it has anything to do with attracting a good, compatible woman, and keeping her happy. Let the nutcakes go out and enjoy their misery, if that's what they want. You don't need to find millions of good women, you just need to find one. ;-)
"I don't mind butt-ugly as long as they're smart/mature and have a sense of humor."
Would you settle for 0 of 4?
What do you mean?
This is very true and should be noted! A related issue I have noticed is cute women who are not goodlooking enough to be 'hot' but certainly pleasant looking seem to think that since they aren't hot, they 'must be' witty, or they 'must be' smart, or whatever, because they of course 'must' have something on the better looking/better built girls.
Most of the time it isn't true. Hahaha!
That has almost nothing to do with it. 'Nice' in this context usually means going to some pains to not present yourself sexually (which is only partially related to assertiveness, and not necessarilty related to naivete.)
The truth is many males get well past adolescence with the idea that by being nonsexual, they will be rewarded with sexual attention. There is nothing notably 'smart' about that, hahaha!
I don't think nice guys end up with good women - actually they tend to wind up with overbearing, bullying women. A good, strong woman usually connects with a good strong man. That has a bit to do with being nice, and much more to do with being feminine (for a woman) and masculine (for a man).
0 of 4 -- Meaning, would you still love me if I WERE ugly, dumb, immature and had no sense of humor? T'was a little self-deprecating humor. < grin >
You're welcome.
Of course not! Hahahaha
Sureeeeee! LOL
DANG!
Would you still need me,
Would you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four?
-- the Beatles
OK - I'm not that funny.
What a hoot.
Dr. Laura did hit the nail on the head with that - it's a shame that so many women out there think that showing genuine appreciation for their man is somehow a bad quality.
The truth is that men very much want to please their women, and that's the best feedback that that can get. Indeed, I know in my own case (and with many men I know), the path to alienation begins with a sense that I am consistently unappreciated. When I am on that path, it really is only a matter of time before I find a woman who does appreciate me.
Don't push your luck, LOL!
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