[radiohead]

When I told a neighbor of mine about it she asked "Did she smoke?. I said yes,and she said "Oh,well",waved her hand dismissively,and changed the subject.

I understand. My husband died at 40 from a heart attack which was actually caused by a drug reaction, but I would just cut it short and say 'heart attack.' Well, I stopped doing that because people would look at me and ask, "What were you feeding him?" or "Did he smoke?" Yeah, he smoked, but he was of average build and in better shape than most of them.

I got tired of these scientific geniuses blaming me for his heart attack. You can't imagine (well, you can) how rude and self-righteous some people are.

[Mears]

Sad about your husband,way too young,but the way people judge others today astonishes me.

Smoking seems to have become the only reason,along with weight,that people die.

What they are really saying is live a "healthy" lifestyle(as they define it) and you will live forever.

What fools they are and again,sorry for your loss.

[Gabz]

I am so sorry for your loss of your husband.

The accusatory nature of the comments you received are absolutely horrendous. There is no excuse for them.